Just think about today’s adult children just finding out that there is a thin line between their parents being able to live independently and possibly requiring some sort of help as they age.
As parents grow older, they begin facing new realities and challenges that their adult children may not know how to address, and in some instances, don’t want to deal with. Many adult children want to support their parents’ desire to continue living independently, even as concern grows regarding their safety and well-being.
So now the discussions about transitioning to a senior living community are usually delayed because mom and/or dad fear the loss of independence, resulting in the family members feeling guilty because they can’t always be there to help.
“No one wants change and family members often times have varied opinions when it comes to determining when is the right time for their parents to transition to a senior living community,” says J. Stephen Dobbins, owner & president of Assisted Transition of Greater Cincinnati & Northern Kentucky. “Many times, adult children promise their parents that they would never move them from their home. There’s always that promise that their parents would never have to move to a senior living community. However, in reality, that promise may not come true,” he says.
The best time to have this discussion is when they are healthy, when they can talk about what they want and how they want to live. If they are ill while you are thinking about their next move, they may not able to reasonably communicate their desires. It’s true that fear, feeling nervous, uncomfortable or guilty will accompany a discussion with your parents or loved ones about moving.
According to LongTermCare.gov (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services), the duration and level of long term care will vary from person to person and often change over time. Someone turning age 65 today has almost a 70% chance of needing some type of and supports in their remaining years. Women need care longer (3.7 years) than men (2.2 years). One-third of today’s 65 year-olds may never need support, but 20 percent will need it for longer than 5 years.
If this discussion is dealt with when your loved ones are healthy, both physically and mentally, it will be easier for them to grow accustomed to their new surroundings and lifestyle. Also, waiting until the need arises may substantially limit your options and increase costs.
Assisted Transition of Greater Cincinnati & Northern Kentucky provides personalized and customized solutions to senior living placement, referral, and advisory services at “No Cost” to our clients. Through our unique placement process, we DISCOVER, DESIGN, and DELIVER for our clients.
Finding local, senior living placement for every senior is our specialty. With uncompromising integrity, we listen carefully, and develop personalized, innovative, and practical approaches and solutions, and are committed to providing best-in-class service that is complementary to our clients.